I do worry that if I don't ever get pregnant, it'll be partly a timing issue that D wasn't willing to take the time to use a day despite my encouragement. It seemed like things were improving in that area, but I'm concerned that it's going back to me almost having to beg and cajole D into using a day. I don't want to be the initiator; I want D to show more desire and put in more effort. I'm not sure what to do that won't just make it worse. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.
I had trouble in the past - not wanting to be the one to initiate sex on important days. I eventually ended up IM'ing or emailing Hubby the window of upcoming good days every cycle in advance and then just leaving it up to him. It seemed as soon as I stepped back from pushing, he stepped up. When we agreed on this method, I told him that I was upset that we were missing fertile days and I didn't want to be mourning a negative cycle thinking that it MIGHT have been the one IF ONLY we had managed to hit the right days.
ReplyDeleteGood luck and hopefully you manage to catch a good day this weekend!
I agree...let him know your concern and ask him what way he would prefer. I'll be praying for the perfect timing for you!!
ReplyDeleteSorry the timing seems to be off. I agree with the above...talk to him and let him know what you're thinking and feeling. Maybe he just needs to hear your concern to get him to step up to the plate. Some hubbies (mine) are a little slow on the uptake!
ReplyDeleteI am sorry I don't have any advice, but I can only imagine how difficult it is to be so worried about timing. Maybe this is sort of a self-preservation method he is using, I don't know? I will join you in prayer - I have been praying the Novena for my husband, too :) Hope it bears much fruit for all of us!
ReplyDeleteJust a funny side note, the nurses would always tell me you have to use every day of opportunity - gosh, that was pressure! So, the one chart they never even saw - we tried to follow their advice to perfectly. We still did not manage to use EVERY day, but thank God, he intervened!
In my experience...don't tell him what's going on...just seduce him. My hubs had a terrible time with the pressure and my tears.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Danya- don't tell just seduce! I think it takes the pressure off! I use to (almost) always tell my husband and now I've gotten to where I pretty much never do. It's definitely helped us out. Goodluck!!
ReplyDeleteI'm thinking Danya and Faith are right on.... And I will be praying!!!
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