Sunday, November 2, 2008

"So are you thinking about kids"

D's work friends are generally pretty nice, but the baby questions and TTC advice from them drives me crazy.  We went to a Halloween party last night, and of course it was brought up by one of the people he works with, and ended up where they were saying things about having babies for about 10 minutes.  The ones that we do mention that we are trying to have the "wonderful" advice of "have more sex" and "relax and don't try so hard".  It's hard to figure out how to handle it since he's the one who works with them.

Earlier this week, my cousin asked me a couple things on the family website including if we were thinking about having kids soon.  I responded that we have been trying since the wedding in July 2007.  The cousins on that side of the family are mostly on their second child and all but one are younger than me (some by almost 3 years).  It was hard to see two of my cousins' wives announce pregnancies earlier this year.  One of them did take 10 months to get pregnant and she had a previous miscarriage, so it wasn't as hard to be happy for her.  This side of the family also lives on the other side of the country so I only see them every couple years.  They are pretty tight-knit, but it's hard for me that I'm not a part of it.  The cousins on the other side live closer, but they still live a couple hours a way and the oldest is 5 years younger (the youngest is 17 years younger).  My 19 year old cousin is due in 3 weeks, around the same time as the cousin on the other side's wife.

I did work on my letter to Dr. Hilgers, so that I can send it when this cycle is done (around November 20 is my best guess...unless we have a miracle).  My next follow-up with my Creighton instruction is on Wednesday.  I hope to be oing on Saturday (CD is CD 12).  I'm glad that it falls on Saturday since D just left for a business trip and I won't see him until Friday night.  "We" are dogsitting...really me because D work yesterday and I didn't, so I was home all day with the dogs.  They are good dogs, but it's just that he was the one who agreed to it, but I'm the one whose spending the time with them.

1 comment:

  1. It's SO difficult when others give you the cliche advice, like it's the first time you've ever heard it. But then it makes me wonder if I ever do that to other people, whose situations I don't understand. I'm sure I have! When it happens to me, I just usually grin and bear it, but I'm sure there are ways to politely say "Ya, that's a common misconception but we are working to treat the underlying problems" or something like that.

    Good luck with your Creighton meeting on Wed. I can't wait to hear what you find out from Dr. Hilgers after your letter is sent. That's so exciting!